How to Number Close a Hired Gun

For those unfamiliar with PUA lingo, Hired Gun is a term used to describe the attractive, young ladies that work in bars, nightclubs, restaurants strip clubs and retail stores. These women are notoriously difficult to pick up because they're usually busy working. So, your best bet is to go in during a slow time.

All the standard pick up stuff applies. Look cool, stand tall, eye contact and smile.

I've used this gambit successfully a number of times in low energy environments like a convenience store or fast food restaurant or even a woman working at a motel. It does require a wing man. But, he doesn't have to be aware of your plan for the pick up.

 As I said above, you want to go in when she's not going to be busy. When you walk inside, just go about your usual business. Pick up the things you want to buy while having a conversation with your wing man. It doesn't matter what you're talking about as long as it's not depressing. As you approach the check out counter, look at your target and say something like "oh, it's you again." Be a little playful as you say it.

Then turn to your friend and say "she's in love with me you know. She tries to hide it, but I can tell because every time I come in here she gives me the eye."

 Your wing man will say something like "really?"

 You say "yep," then turn and look her right in the eyes and say, "but she's too shy to ask for my phone number."

Now, watch how she reacts. Did she huff and roll her eyes? If so, just laugh it off and forget about her. She's not interested and there is no shortage of attractive women.

But, If she smiled, blushed and looked down, she's into you.  Say "give me your number."  Do not ask.       But, don't be demanding either.  This is important.

Of course you don't have to have actually been in that store before or ever seen the girl.

If she protests when you accuse her of being in love with you, just say "it's alright, you don't have to lie. We're all friends here. You're just not my type. I'm sorry if I've broken your little heart, but it's really better this way."  Then just laugh it off.   The great thing about this pick up is you don't risk anything.  It's all done playfully and you know you'll get the number before you ask for it.   So, give it a try and let me known how it goes for you.

Nagging

I've dated many women and if there's one thing they all had in common, it's that they simply couldn't take no for an answer.  What follows is a hypothetical example for the purposes of this discussion.  I'm using this because there is way to compromise.

One day she says:  "I want to get a dog."

He says:  "No, I don't want to live with a dog."

Her:  "Why not?"

Him:  "Because dogs are messy.  They smell bad and I don't like hair all over everything."

She waits a few weeks and brings it up again.  The same argument ensues and he thinks it's settled.

Later they're out shopping and she says "oh, look!  There's a pet shop.  Let's go in."  They argue some more.

I've had arguments like this go on for years.  I have told women no and that if that's what they really need to be happy they should move out and get what they want.  But, they NEVER leave.  They just keep nagging.

I'm finally left with no choice but an ultimatum.  "I'm tired of this.  I will not change my mind.  If that's what you want, move out and get it.  But, if you bring it up to me one more time, I am leaving.  Is that clear?"

Guess what?  She'll bring it up again!

Does she do it just to see if I'll really leave her?  Once I'm gone, what then?

What if she had been able to wear me down?  Am I still a strong man, worthy of her respect?  Or has she simply learned that if she nags long enough I'll give her whatever she wants?

Gentleman, your woman will test you every day.  And every day you must pass her test or she will stop loving you a little each time you fail.  She'll feel she cannot trust you to be the strong man she wants you to be.

Leave her before giving in to her. 

Women Are Brats

Women like to say; "the only difference between a man and a boy is the size of his toys."  And I suppose that's true to a certain extent.  But, women have their immature side as well.

What follows comes from my own experience in relationships.  It's not meant to be insulting or misogynistic.  It's simply what I've learned about living with women.  If anyone disagrees, feel free to give your views in the comment section.

Women are selfish brats.  Like children, they will push a man's limits just to see what they can get away with.  If a man does allow her to get away with something, she will lose respect for him.  And she will grow to despise him for what she perceives as weakness.

How do we men handle this?  Usually we give her what she wants.  We don't care as long as she'll shut up.  But, this is exactly the wrong thing to do.  This will lead us down the path of becoming her "bitch."

Why do we do it?  Because we're told that relationships take work and compromise.  Well, I'm here to tell you, for the most part, that's BULLOCKS! 

It's been my experience that there is no compromise in relationships (but, there is work).  One person gives in to what the other demands.  And once you give in the first time she'll have more demands for you to give in to and it doesn't end until you're a pussy whipped shadow of the man she was once attracted to.

When the stand up comic, Sam Kinison said "I don't condone wife beating, BUT I UNDERSTAND IT!" this is what he was talking about.  Women will drive men crazy with their nagging and complaining.  We may even break one day and do something we regret if we don't find a way of dealing with her.

So, what's the answer?  How do we continue our relationship and still keep our manhood? 

By being firm.  When we say no, and we must mean no.  We cannot bend or break under her pressure.  We must put a foot down and say "enough."   No matter how much she cries or screams or throws tantrums.  We must see it as the selfish, childish, bratty behavior it really is and treat her as we would a selfish, bratty child.  By ignoring her.

We cannot reward he bad behavior by giving her attention.  We tell her she's acting like a brat and we leave her to it.

She'll try to bait us into arguing, but we cannot get into it with her.  We must remain calm and in control.  If we have to get in the car drive away for an hour, so be it.  Tell her, "you are out of control and I'm leaving until you calm down."  Then go and have a coffee.  If she blows up your cell phone, turn it off.  Call her in an hour and see if she's better. 

This is the way to earn her respect and her love.

Finding the Inner Jerk

I want to be clear here.  If a woman does the same job as a man she absolutely should be paid the same.  Assuming she really is doing the same job, working just as hard and putting in the same hours.  I am a firm believer in equal rights for all people no matter their age, sex, race or whatever.

Having said that, I've seen some problems.

I guess it was back in the 80s when women started finding their inner bitch.  Supposedly, this was about asking for their fair shake in a "man's world".  They believed standing up for their rights made them a bitch.  Women began to take pride in being a bitch.  But, many women have taken this concept too far.  They have gone beyond being equal and now, often have a sense of entitlement that they deserve more than what they've actually earned.

Men, it's time for us to put these "bitches" in their place.  We have to stop putting up with women's garbage.  They are certainly due what they've earned, but that's where it has to end.  Once they cross the line it's up to us to say "NO.  Stop.  I've had enough of this crap."

Of course by doing so women will call us jerks.  (actually, they'll likely use a stronger word that starts with ass and ends with hole.)  But, we have to remain firm.  We have to stand up for ourselves because no one else will.

It's up to us to hold women to their word and make them take responsibility for their actions.  After all, this is the 21st century.  Women don't need men to come to their rescue anymore.  If her car breaks down, if her roof leaks, if she spent her rent money on shoes and we come over and fix her problems, we should be paid for our time.  Money, a home cooked meal, take us out to dinner or whatever.  We did the work, we earned the payment.  If she's not willing to pay, let her walk.

Of course she tell everyone what a jerk you are, but so what?  Would you rather be known as a jerk or a pussy?

So, sack up gentleman and stop putting up with that bitch's nonsense.

There's the Door

I've noticed a pattern with relationships in my life.  I'll get into a disagreement with my woman and to keep the peace I'll give in to her.  This is the first step down a road leading to the wrong place.

Once she learns she can manipulate me with emotional outbursts she'll start using this tool more and more.  Foolishly, I go along.  I'm thinking, "whatever you want, just shut up!"  After some time she's doing whatever she wants without a thought about my wants and needs.  She now sees me as a useless lump taking up space in her life.  She doesn't care about me and worse, she has no respect for me.  And she's right, I've lost my balls.  I handed them to her on a silver platter saying "here you go honey, I don't need these anymore."

Well gentleman, I've found the answer.  I now understand how to get my power back and earn the respect I should have never lost.  It's just three simple words.

There's the door.

It's so easy!  Just tell her if she's really that unhappy she's free to go because you're sick of hearing her nag and complain.  Just pack her shit and hit the bricks.  I'm sure we'll both do just fine on our own.

But, You know what?  She won't leave!  You can bet your last dollar on it.  She ain't going anyplace.

This is a total power flip.  Now she's playing YOUR game, dancing to YOUR tune.

Use this power wisely.

Masculinity Crisis

What does it mean to be masculine in 21st century America?  With the rise of feminism and the gay movement it seems a lot of people want to redefine what it means to be men and their roll in the home.

On the one hand, women say they want an equal partnership, but on the other they say they want a man to sit at the head of their tables.   A man they can respect.  I don't know about you, but I'm confused.

I think this is the root of many relationship troubles.  Women want a man to lead as long as he's leading where she wants to go.  But, if he's going where she wants, he isn't really leading is he?

If a woman wants her man to lead, she must submit to his leadership.  Submit is a word many women don't seem to like the taste of.  Why should she submit to him?

Because she wants him to lead.

What if she doesn't like where he's taking them?

Therein lies the trouble.  Now the arguments start.  She no longer wants him to lead.  She no longer trusts his vision.  Now she wants to lead.  But, in doing so she loses respect for him and he can no longer sit at the head of her table.

Someone must take the lead.  One partner must be dominant while the other submits.  There is simply no other way.

We men just want our women to be happy.  If you want to follow us, we will lead you.  If you want to take the lead, that's okay too.  We'll take the backseat.  We really don't care.  But, women don't seem to respect a man that submits to them.  Women seem to want to "marry up."   Where does that leave men?

It beats the hell out of me.

For me the solution is to keep things separated.  This is my life and I'll take of it.  You can do what you want with your life.  You don't tell me how to run my life and I won't tell you how to run your's.

Hopefully, we can find a place to meet in between our lives.

It's Just Sex

I don't insist on having sex with a woman on the first date.  I leave this up to her.  If she wants to, awesome!  If not, that's cool too.  However, if we don't have sex, I have no reason to ask her on a second date.

The only reason I take a woman out is because there's the possibility of having sex.  If she doesn't want it, there are plenty of women that do.  Why should I waste my time with a woman that wants to drag her heels?

Don't get me wrong, I respect her decision.  It's her body and if she'd rather go home and diddle herself to Johnny Depp movies, she can knock herself out.  But, I'm going home and sending a text to a booty call.

Now, I know women want sex as much as men do.  So, why would she want to wait?   Because she doesn't know you well enough?  That's a valid reason.  But, if I planed our date properly, it shouldn't be an issue.

The only other reason I can come up with is she's playing hard to get.  That means she's attempting to increase her value in my eyes by making me think her stuff is so special because she doesn't give it away to any guy that comes along.  Well, that's a head game and I don't want to play.  She doesn't have anything other women don't have and it's not any  better either.

It's just sex after all.